Lean in closer and listen carefully!
There is no right way to do it!
This can be a really hard concept to grasp. We see someone that has what we want and think that if we follow the exact steps they took, then we could have it as well. Maybe we listen to a training from someone that has the business we want or the community we desire. We think, ‘If I follow this to the letter, then I should have the same success.’
But then we don’t (even though we did what they said).
Then what can happen is that you start to question yourself. Asking questions such as:
- What is wrong with me?
- How is it that other people seem to be able to do this, but not me?
- Am I ever going to have the life I really want?
Not only are these questions unhelpful – your brain will always look for negative answers if you ask it negative questions – they actually move you further away from your goal.
There really is no right way – no one else has your brain, your knowledge, your life experience or your resources.
My friend and I had a bit of a running joke. Whenever we drove somewhere, she would always say, ‘Not sure if this is the quickest way or the best way.’ We would both laugh and say, ‘But it’s A way.’
It was just a silly bit of fun, but I think the same principle applies when it comes to achieving what we want in life. It is all trial and error – you can see it as failure or you can see it as a stepping stone along the way.
And guess what? You won’t know which way was the way until you achieve what you want to achieve.
I absolutely loved this post, Stacey!
Your reminder that there’s no single “right” way to achieve our goals is so liberating. It’s all about finding our own path and enjoying the journey, trial, and error included. Your friend’s “It’s A way” joke really hit home—sometimes the best way is simply our way. Thanks for the inspiration!
I’m glad you loved it and it is my pleasure.
I have also found myself caught up in thinking there is a right way to do it.
Lao Tsu: “The journey of 1,000 miles begins with the first step.” Getting started is usually the hardest part. We don’t necessarily have to Google the best way. It’s the struggle, the trial and error part, that make us successful and grateful and able to keep going!
Yes! I love that quote. Enjoy the journey, as they say.
Sometimes it’s difficult to avoid analysis paralysis.
I can be difficult to avoid analysis paralysis sometimes – but we usually know they very next step to take.
Agreed, instead of imitating we should be initiating our own journey, only people sometimes don’t have confidence in their gut feeling or creativity and rather follow a generic checklist.
In German there’s a saying ‘alle Wege führen nach Rom’ – meaning that ultimately every road will lead to Rome.
Initiate instead of imitate – I love that! Yes, every road leads to Rome.