Lean in closer and listen carefully!
There is no right way to do it!
This can be a really hard concept to grasp. We see someone that has what we want and think that if we follow the exact steps they took, then we could have it as well. Maybe we listen to a training from someone that has the business we want or the community we desire. We think, ‘If I follow this to the letter, then I should have the same success.’
But then we don’t (even though we did what they said).
Then what can happen is that you start to question yourself. Asking questions such as:
- What is wrong with me?
- How is it that other people seem to be able to do this, but not me?
- Am I ever going to have the life I really want?
Not only are these questions unhelpful – your brain will always look for negative answers if you ask it negative questions – they actually move you further away from your goal.
There really is no right way – no one else has your brain, your knowledge, your life experience or your resources.
My friend and I had a bit of a running joke. Whenever we drove somewhere, she would always say, ‘Not sure if this is the quickest way or the best way.’ We would both laugh and say, ‘But it’s A way.’
It was just a silly bit of fun, but I think the same principle applies when it comes to achieving what we want in life. It is all trial and error – you can see it as failure or you can see it as a stepping stone along the way.
And guess what? You won’t know which way was the way until you achieve what you want to achieve.